Will Someone Please Tell Me What Love Is?
Recently a reader wrote in stating that no writer actually tells you what Love is. “They write,” she says, “lots of words about Love, but something is always missing.” The writers tell you to be more loving. They even quote the Holy Bible which tells us to love God and love your neighbor as yourself, but the writers never tell you what Love is. In this post, let’s examine Love and get a clearer sense of what Love is, and be better Lovers.
Here’s a certainty: Everyone wants to Love and be Loved. Have you ever heard anyone say that they don’t want to be Loved? To love and be loved, according to Psychologist Abraham Maslow, is one of the basic “human” drives. A spiritual principle underlies this drive.
An Expression Of Love Is Not Love
Take a moment to think about the many expressions of Love. It can be anything from a young child hugging his nana to a couple making love. Perhaps a picture comes to mind of a mother breastfeeding her baby, or a daughter changing her elderly mother’s diaper. These appear as loving acts, but none of them are Love. They are expressions of Love seen through the filter of a seemingly relative world. More simply, they are expressions of Love seen through the lens of dualism.
God Is Love
The Holy Bible clearly states “God is love” (1 John 4:8). This fact moves us in the direction of understanding Love for what it is. God is one Infinite, Indivisible Presence. The important word here is one. Love is Oneness. Love is Living Oneness. Seen through the lens of dualism, Love appears as kind and loving acts. Seen as it Is (Illumined Seeing), Love is seen and experienced as One moving, living Presence.
You’ve heard it said that your neighbor is your Self. You’ve also been counseled to “love your neighbor as yourself.” Doesn’t this verse from the Holy Bible make more sense when you consider your neighbor is your Self? To Love is to first understand how your neighbor is your Self.
The Ocean Of Love
Just as the wave is the ocean and the ocean is the wave, so it is that You and God is one – the same One. You are not merely a wave in the Ocean of God; you are the Ocean Itself. This is true of your neighbor and all the Identities walking the face of this planet. Each is the Infinity of God.
Each wave is distinctly that wave yet is inseparable from every other wave. Your Identity is distinctly your Identity but is inseparable from every so-called other Identity.
You may count a thousand waves in the ocean, but each wave is nothing but the one ocean. Each Identity is the one Ocean of God. The Infinity of your Identity includes (or is) the Infinity of your neighbor’s Identity. You are the same One.
The Ocean of God is a living Presence. The Ocean of God is an active Presence. In human terms, this living, acting One is called Love.
How To Be A Better Lover
It’s time to get busy Loving. Below are three (3) suggestions for living the Love life:
- Your Identity is Infinity
- When you first open your eyes in the morning, remind yourself that you are Infinity Itself – that your Being is all Being. (You can’t say this as a human being – but you already know that.)
- I AM that I AM
- As you go about your day, look around you. Randomly pick something or someone and know I AM that I AM.
- Switch It Around
- Look at someone or something and know “That I AM is the I AM that I AM.”
Take these suggestions to heart and you will move beyond the duality of “one with,” to the reality of just One. Follow these suggestions and life will be a thrilling adventure in Love.