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Grief — How To End It

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I Never Believed She Killed Her Husband

“She must’ve killed her husband,” whispered a band of women huddled in the corner of the sanctuary. “How else can you explain how happy she is after the police just found his body in the woods?”

When I heard about the rumors of Venus killing her husband, I laughed. In a typical church, I could understand what they would expect of Venus – obvious signs of grief. But this was a metaphysical church. This was a church that teaches death is not real. This was a church that has as a motto, “Nothing can disturb the calm peace of my soul.” That’s why I laughed.

Did the women spreading this rumor ever stop to consider that maybe the teachings of the church were more than mere words for Venus? Did they consider that perhaps Venus was living the teachings, rather than merely mouthing them? Could it be that Venus clearly realized that since God is All, there is nothing to grieve? Contrast this with the following story and decide which best exemplifies God Mind?

Grief Is Not Natural

I once worked with a man who would break out into uncontrollable sobbing every day. A river of tears would run down his face. Between short gasps for breath, he’d sputter something about his mother. I pieced together that his mother must have recently passed.

One day following another outburst I asked him, “Cal, when did your mother pass?” Wiping the tears from his eyes, he said, “Ten years ago.” I thought to myself, “There’s a problem here.” But as it is said, “Everyone grieves differently.” But, is grief necessary? Is it based on the Truth, or a lie about the Truth?

Not too long ago, a friend asked me, “Allen, what would you do if your mother died?” [Be honest, don’t you find this a strange question?] Yes, I was taken aback by the question, but then I replied, “I’d call a Practitioner right away.” “A Practitioner,” she said, “Isn’t it a little late for that?” “No, it’s the ideal thing to do,” I said. “The reason I’d call a Practitioner is to head-off a possible encounter with grief.”

Someone has to say this bluntly: Grief is not natural.

Let me expand on this. Grief is not natural to the Christ or God-Mind. God-Mind knows that Life is all there is. God-Mind knows the inseparability of Life and Identity. God-Mind’s natural state is Joy, and from this state it never drifts. The most important thing to know is that God-Mind is the only Mind.

Is There A Mind Other Than God-Mind?

Do you argue that grief is natural? I agree with you. Grief is natural to the so-called human mind, but answer this question. Where in the Allness of God is the human mind? Nowhere! The human mind is the finite, distorted experience of God-Mind. Analyze that sentence carefully and you must come to one conclusion: The human mind is NOTHING.

Here’s the question you must ask and answer for yourself. “Your” mind. Is it the human mind or God-Mind? You can’t have it both ways. Which is it? If you answered, “Allen, of course my Mind is God-Mind,” then grief is not normal for you. Rather, unbridled Joy is your natural state.

Break Free Of Grief Today

Does it seem that you’re caught in the cold clutch of grief? Would you like to break free? It would help if you at least believed, despite all appearances, that God-Mind is your only Mind. From here it is simple.

Throughout the day, when it seems that you are overcome by a wave of grief, say to yourself, “Right this moment, I am willing to experience Joy.” Later, during your time of silent God-focused prayer, open with those same words. Don’t try to be happy. Don’t reach up and out for joy. This is a process of revelation. Let the Mind of Joy be revealed and experienced as your Mind.

Why does this work? It works for the same reason spiritual healing “works.” Spiritual healing, as you know, does not try to change a sick body into a well body. Spiritual healing is KNOWING that right where there appears to be a sick body is the whole and perfect Presence of God embodied. And right where there appears to be a grieving mind is God-Mind – Joy-Mind.

When you state your willingness to experience Joy, you state your willingness to experience the natural state of the ever-present God-Mind – your only Mind.

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The Way Out of Grief, Sadness, and Depression

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Grief Is Unbearable Because …

Somehow the subject of death popped up in the conversation. Responding to the man sitting next to me, I said, “Should a loved one appear to die, the first thing I’d do is call a Practitioner.” A woman sitting at the other end of the table said, “It’s a little late for that, isn’t it?” Without a moment’s hesitation I said, “No! The seeming loss is bad enough, but the grief would be unbearable.”

Grief is unbearable because it is not a natural state of Mind (God). Mind’s natural state is unfettered revelry in Its unchallenged and unopposed Allness.

Reader, answer these questions:

  • Can you steadfastly be aware of Perfection’s unopposed Allness and entertain one moment of grief?
  • Can you bask in the awareness of Love’s boundless Allness and be sad?
  • Is it possible for you to dwell in the awareness of uninterrupted Completeness and be depressed?

Your Mind’s Natural State

Mind, the Mind you are, is this constant awareness of Perfection, Love and Completeness. This is “your” Mind’s natural state. Connect the dots and you clearly behold this fact: Joy is the natural state of the Mind that you are.

The bleak greyness of grief is like a millstone around the neck of joy, drowning it in a sea of sadness. And, sometimes the pull of grief seems inescapable. Many people ask, “Allen, don’t you think there are times when grief is justified? After all, even psychologists talk about the stages of grief.”

What Do The Psychologists Know

Reader, perhaps you have asked the same question. But ask yourself this, “What mind are the psychologists talking about? Aren’t they talking about a mind that is conditioned by appearances and the drama of human experience? Are they knowing the Unconditioned Mind that is God?” Again, connect the dots: If psychologists are not talking about the Mind that is God, are they talking about any mind at all?

In the stillness of prayer, you have known times when you experienced a realization of God’s Allness. You experienced a deep peace, didn’t you? And there was joy too, wasn’t there? Many times you experienced one or both. Peace (and/or joy) always accompanies revelation.

Reader, have you ever realized God’s Allness and experienced sadness? How about grief? I’m sure your answer is “No!” Why not? Because peace and joy are natural states of Mind. Sadness and grief are not.

This Always Works For Me (It’ll Work For You)

Whenever I’m feeling a little down (which is not that often), I do this one thing and it always works. I pray. My prayer is just for greater realization of the I AM that I AM. I’m not praying to feel better. I’m praying for a grander realization.

If the first prayer doesn’t reveal the I AM, I pray again. I repeat this every fifteen minutes until I realize more of this I AM Presence. At some point Truth is revealed. God is experienced. A joy takes over my entire being, and I realize I am Joy.

After the first time I did this, I understood the full implication of the experience. I understood that Joy is the natural state of Mind. I perceived that sadness, depression, and grief are unnatural (unreal) states of Mind.

Don’t Do It

Reader, don’t accept grief. Don’t accept depression. Don’t accept sadness. JOY IS YOUR NATURAL STATE OF MIND AND YOUR NATURAL WAY OF BEING.

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