Absolutely Yours

Now that you are willing to forgive, it’s time to clear the decks of three self-defeating ideas – false beliefs that could stand in the way of forgiveness. They are:

• Someone blocked your opportunity.
• Someone stole a sum of money from you.
• Someone withheld love.

Let’s examine each one of them.

Someone blocked your opportunity

Who gave them the power to block your good? I will answer that question with a quote from the Holy Bible: “According to your belief is it done unto you.”

Opportunity is as infinite and omnipresent as God, for God is the Substance of all opportunity. They are as boundless as God and are not governed by time, age, location, etc. Furthermore, you and God are One. You are one with unlimited opportunities; for that reason they cannot be blocked or stolen.

Someone stole a large sum of money from you

If money was stolen from you, why are you upset? “Allen, now I’m out of $5,000.” That’s not a good answer.

The stolen money did not decrease your financial prosperity one cent. God is, and has forever been, both the Source and Substance of your prosperity. Can God be diminished? Can God be stolen? Remember, you and God are One. For this reason, your abundant Supply is forever intact. Is this clear to you? If it is, forgive the offender. Their actions did not affect your Supply. Your Supply is always abundantly present wherever you are.

Someone stopped loving you

For whatever reason, you feel someone has stopped loving you, and now your love tank is on empty.

Once a man told me his wife ran off with his business partner. It’s been decades, and he is still nursing the wounds of betrayal and lost love. A woman once told me how her friend from church ran off with her husband. It’s been twenty years and she still tells the story to anyone willing to listen.

I hear these stories all the time. In each case the betrayed one feels an “alienation of affection” and a loss of love. Let’s, however, look at the facts.

God is Love, and you and God are One. You are Love. You are the presence of all the Love you could ever desire, and when you know this, Love will flesh Itself out in ways that are tailor-made for you. In short, forgive the “other” person. They took nothing from you.

Getting Down To The Business Of Forgiving

Now it’s time to get on with true forgiving. All you are doing in this “process” is eliminating otherness – other than God, and other than You. Why is this necessary? Because you cannot profess that God is the only Presence and continue to have a presence other than God.

Reader, the steps that follow are suggestions to be tailored as you are guided from within.

1. Find a comfortable spot, free of distractions.
2. Allow yourself to sink into the idea that God (Love, Perfection) is and always has been the only Presence and Power.
3. Take this a step further and acknowledge God to be all there is of your Identity.
4. Now advance further. As God is All, acknowledge that, despite all appearances, God is all there is of the Identity you are forgiving.
5. For a minute or so, be silent and listen to the voice of your God Consciousness.
6. Repeat these five steps until you perceive the true nature of your Self and the Self of the person you are forgiving – until you know there is just One, and that One is God.

How Do You Forgive In Extreme Cases Such As Abuse And Rape?

Google these names, and you will read about so-called extreme cases of forgiveness.

• Ady Guzman-DeJesus
• Steven McDonald
• Deborah Copaken

Cases like these can either crush you or push you to new heights of God realization and power-filled living. Are you ready to be pushed? Before I offer a suggestion on how to forgive when it seems impossible to forgive, I am going to tell you why you should forgive.

The memory of past abuse is like a ghost haunting your present days. You don’t know the exact day or time, but the haunting can be paralyzing. But, you have immediate access to an effective ghostbuster: forgiveness.

In challenging cases of forgiveness, there are two essential requirements:

• Willingness to see the person differently.
• Willingness to see the event differently.

You, however, are not personally responsible for determining what the “differently” is. Realization makes that determination.

Are You Willing To See The Person Differently?

Your perception of the offender is mostly tainted by their offense. On occasion you may have thought they should be strung up by their ankles until blood runs out of their eye sockets.

Your former thoughts about your offender don’t matter. Here’s what matters: Are you willing to see this person differently? Are you willing to perceive their spiritual reality? If your answer is “yes,” you can move forward in a way that can close and erase the emotional wounds.

What I am suggesting here will work. Have a dedicated “prayer” period to answer this one question: What is it I need to see concerning (name of person)?

You may have to do this many times before the answer is revealed. Keep at it, and remember you are asking the God of your Being. You will gain a true perception of the individual, and yourself, that unshackles you from the past and elevates all of your current and future relationships.

Are You Willing To See The Event Differently?

If you are, the suggestion that follows will take your forgiveness to a place humanly unimaginable. Do this and you will never have to forgive anyone again. That’s a promise. What is revealed in your Consciousness will stick with you for the rest of your Eternal Life.

The question you will ask of your Self is: Concerning (name the event), what really happened here?

Again, you may have to ask this many times, but the answer will blaze forth in your Consciousness.

Reader, in these two posts on forgiveness, you have all you need to forgive – to exchange twoness for the genuine experience of Oneness – which is God.